The big question is, why are we here? The object of this life is the pursuit of happiness. Most people feel that if they become successful, then they will find happiness. Wrong, it is the other way around. You must find happiness in order to be successful. Now, you may say I know a lot of wealthy people who are unhappy and you would be right. Maybe the way they got their riches is what’s making them unhappy. For you and me, let’s keep it simple.
Pursue happiness. Find happiness with your present employment. It’s not the job, it’s you. Are you as happy as you want to be? Happiness should not come from outside influences, happiness is a state of mind, and only you control the state of your mind.
Happiness comes from living in this moment. If you are worried about tomorrow or fretting about yesterday you will not be happy today. Today, right now, this moment, is all there is. Make up your mind right now that you are happy, you are alive, that you have many blessings to be happy about. You, who are procrastinating, do it now. Say these words, “I am happy.” Say them over, and over until you feel happy. Then look at your world. What in it is making you unhappy? Identify it and then (very important) change the way you look at your unhappiness. What is good about it? How can you change to make it work for you? If it’s a person you think is making you unhappy, you can’t change that person; you can only change you. If you are unable to change, then you are unable to succeed. Don’t say “I’ve always been like this” because this is exactly what’s keeping you from enjoying success, happiness and prosperity.
Today’s Exercise: Find something you really like to do and do it. Then capture the essence of your feeling. This is how you want to feel in everything you do.
Today’s Affirmation: I am as happy as I make up my mind to be.
Points to Ponder: You must find happiness in order to be successful.
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Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Time to Forgive
One of the keys to having peace in your family relationships is forgiveness. Your relatives are simply doing what they’ve been taught to do over a lifetime and the lifetimes of their ancestors. Shower them with understanding and forgiveness from your heart.
This passage from A Course in Miracles says it all:
“Do you want peace? Forgiveness offers it. Do you want happiness,
a quiet mind, a certainty of purpose, and a sense of worth and beauty
that transcends the world? Do you want a quietness that cannot be
disturbed, a gentleness that can never be hurt, a deep abiding comfort,
and a rest so perfect it can never be upset? All this, forgiveness offers you.”
What is forgiveness after all, but a willingness to be kind? More than that, forgiveness is knowing.
• It is knowing that the other person is not aware of the force.
• It’s knowing that the other person is a product of many generations of separation from the force.
• It’s knowing that deep down the other person does not want to be angry, unkind, or destructive.
• It’s knowing that you don’t always have to be right.
• It’s knowing that winning an argument is losing the relationship.
• It’s knowing that forgiveness and kindness are God’s messages.
• It’s knowing that the meek shall inherit the earth.
• It’s knowing that when you do an act of kindness or forgiveness your serotonin level in your brain increases.
Serotonin is the body’s way of strengthening your immune system and makes you feel good. Imagine an act of forgiveness can make you feel good and prevent you from getting a disease. Not only will you feel good, the recipient of your act will also feel good. Try forgiveness and kindness. They are better than any medication known to humankind.
Today’s Exercise: Call up someone in your family who you haven’t spoken to in years and say, “Hi, I’ve been thinking about you.”
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Forgiveness is but a willingness to be kind.
This passage from A Course in Miracles says it all:
“Do you want peace? Forgiveness offers it. Do you want happiness,
a quiet mind, a certainty of purpose, and a sense of worth and beauty
that transcends the world? Do you want a quietness that cannot be
disturbed, a gentleness that can never be hurt, a deep abiding comfort,
and a rest so perfect it can never be upset? All this, forgiveness offers you.”
What is forgiveness after all, but a willingness to be kind? More than that, forgiveness is knowing.
• It is knowing that the other person is not aware of the force.
• It’s knowing that the other person is a product of many generations of separation from the force.
• It’s knowing that deep down the other person does not want to be angry, unkind, or destructive.
• It’s knowing that you don’t always have to be right.
• It’s knowing that winning an argument is losing the relationship.
• It’s knowing that forgiveness and kindness are God’s messages.
• It’s knowing that the meek shall inherit the earth.
• It’s knowing that when you do an act of kindness or forgiveness your serotonin level in your brain increases.
Serotonin is the body’s way of strengthening your immune system and makes you feel good. Imagine an act of forgiveness can make you feel good and prevent you from getting a disease. Not only will you feel good, the recipient of your act will also feel good. Try forgiveness and kindness. They are better than any medication known to humankind.
Today’s Exercise: Call up someone in your family who you haven’t spoken to in years and say, “Hi, I’ve been thinking about you.”
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Forgiveness is but a willingness to be kind.
Monday, July 19, 2010
Tough Love
Tough love is harder on you than it is on the recipient but sometimes it is the only way to go. Sometimes we need to say no, and anytime you say, “No,” you need to justify the “no.” “No” without a legitimate explanation of your decision is akin to saying ‘go away, don’t bother me’. No’s must be given with compassion and understanding. Your needs are the most important needs in the world and that doesn’t mean that you exclude the needs of others. What it means is that you must take care of your needs first, and then you have the capacity to take care of others in a more loving way.
A mother’s love for a child requires her to say, “No” sometimes, however it doesn’t mean that you can say no any time you don’t feel like getting involved. Our children learn from us and sometimes we don’t take this responsibility seriously enough. “No” is the worst word in any language. It teaches us that we are not in charge of our life. When you are two years old, it is probably necessary but we learn ninety percent of everything we will ever know between the ages of 2 and 4. If we learn everything is no, you can’t have that or no you can’t do that then, this NO is with us for life and we give up on any worth while endeavor.
I read a story about a five-year-old boy who used to ride his bike on the top rail of a fence. He rode this fence for a long time. An adult saw him riding on the rail and told him to get down. The adult told him he would fall and that it was impossible to ride on that narrow top rail. Naturally, he fell and he was never able to ride the top rail again. Look at what kids can do on a skateboard today, the impossible is a piece of cake to them. Be very, very selective in your use of the word no, if any other word will do, use it.
Today’s Exercise: Bite your tongue before you say, “NO.”
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Only a grown-up can destroy the creativity of a child.
A mother’s love for a child requires her to say, “No” sometimes, however it doesn’t mean that you can say no any time you don’t feel like getting involved. Our children learn from us and sometimes we don’t take this responsibility seriously enough. “No” is the worst word in any language. It teaches us that we are not in charge of our life. When you are two years old, it is probably necessary but we learn ninety percent of everything we will ever know between the ages of 2 and 4. If we learn everything is no, you can’t have that or no you can’t do that then, this NO is with us for life and we give up on any worth while endeavor.
I read a story about a five-year-old boy who used to ride his bike on the top rail of a fence. He rode this fence for a long time. An adult saw him riding on the rail and told him to get down. The adult told him he would fall and that it was impossible to ride on that narrow top rail. Naturally, he fell and he was never able to ride the top rail again. Look at what kids can do on a skateboard today, the impossible is a piece of cake to them. Be very, very selective in your use of the word no, if any other word will do, use it.
Today’s Exercise: Bite your tongue before you say, “NO.”
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Only a grown-up can destroy the creativity of a child.
Friday, July 16, 2010
A Golden Rule
This little poem pretty much says it all:
“I shall pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being let me do it now. Let me not defer it or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.” - Anonymous
1. You have to stop and smell the roses.
2. You must take the time to be kind.
3. You must look for reasons to be kind.
4. Be kind to your loved ones.
5. Be kind to strangers.
6. Be kind to animals.
7. Most of all be kind to yourself.
A Golden Rule is the act of kindness. Every time you do an act of kindness, God smiles, for this is your purpose for living. This is what life is all about. This is your quest, how many individuals today can you get to smile?
Today is all we have; we can’t undo the wrongs of yesterday; tomorrow never comes; today is all there is. Today you make your mark, you are judged by what you do today. The world needs kindness; we are in a constant state of war because humankind has not learned the golden rule. World peace is our quest. Kindness is our tool. Who dares to challenge our quest? Who dares to say it can’t be done? Who dares to get in our way? NO ONE. It is up to us. Kindness – kindness – kindness. It’s that simple.
Today’s Exercise: You guessed it. Do at least ONE simple little act of kindness and like the movie Ground Hog Day do it again and again.
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Today is all we have. Yesterday is a canceled check; Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is Cash…spend it wisely.
“I shall pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being let me do it now. Let me not defer it or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.” - Anonymous
1. You have to stop and smell the roses.
2. You must take the time to be kind.
3. You must look for reasons to be kind.
4. Be kind to your loved ones.
5. Be kind to strangers.
6. Be kind to animals.
7. Most of all be kind to yourself.
A Golden Rule is the act of kindness. Every time you do an act of kindness, God smiles, for this is your purpose for living. This is what life is all about. This is your quest, how many individuals today can you get to smile?
Today is all we have; we can’t undo the wrongs of yesterday; tomorrow never comes; today is all there is. Today you make your mark, you are judged by what you do today. The world needs kindness; we are in a constant state of war because humankind has not learned the golden rule. World peace is our quest. Kindness is our tool. Who dares to challenge our quest? Who dares to say it can’t be done? Who dares to get in our way? NO ONE. It is up to us. Kindness – kindness – kindness. It’s that simple.
Today’s Exercise: You guessed it. Do at least ONE simple little act of kindness and like the movie Ground Hog Day do it again and again.
Today’s Affirmation: I am loved, because I love.
Points to Ponder: Today is all we have. Yesterday is a canceled check; Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is Cash…spend it wisely.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
How Will You Act when You Are Successful?
Want to be successful? Well act that way right now. If you think success and act successful, before you know it you will be successful. I asked my sales force if they thought they could earn one hundred thousand dollars a year. As a person, they said yes. Then I asked them if they were earning one hundred thousand dollars a year would they come to work dressed the way they were. Sheepishly they said nothing, but the next day every one of them improved their dress code.
I then asked them to raise their hand if they were driving the car of their dreams. No one put a hand up. I told them to go to the car dealer of their choice, sit in the car, smell the leather, get a brochure, and negotiate the price of the car, as if they were going to purchase it that day. The next day, they were all excited. There were new car brochures on every desk.
Then, I proceeded to break it down into sales activity so they could understand the amount of additional sales they needed to afford the monthly lease payment. In most cases, it came to less than four extra sales per month, or one per week.
Then, I asked them to picture the car sitting in their driveway. The system is now in place. Most of them will be driving brand new Lexus’, Infinitis, Mercedes’, etc. within the next three months. Piece of cake.
The attitude in the room was high. People were excited and they then knew that not only was it possible, but well within reach without anything drastic happening.
You can do this with everything, home, car, vacation, etc. You just have to believe. As Tug McGraw of the NY Mets once said, “You gotta believe.” Open the channel to God’s help, and then act as though you already possess what you want.
Today’s Exercise: Go to the car dealer and get your brochure. Take a camera with you. Have someone take your picture with you sitting in the car.
Today’s Affirmation: My Subconscious Mind will make into reality whatever I ask of it.
Points to Ponder: Do you want to be successful? Well, then, act that way right now. Fake it until you make it.
I then asked them to raise their hand if they were driving the car of their dreams. No one put a hand up. I told them to go to the car dealer of their choice, sit in the car, smell the leather, get a brochure, and negotiate the price of the car, as if they were going to purchase it that day. The next day, they were all excited. There were new car brochures on every desk.
Then, I proceeded to break it down into sales activity so they could understand the amount of additional sales they needed to afford the monthly lease payment. In most cases, it came to less than four extra sales per month, or one per week.
Then, I asked them to picture the car sitting in their driveway. The system is now in place. Most of them will be driving brand new Lexus’, Infinitis, Mercedes’, etc. within the next three months. Piece of cake.
The attitude in the room was high. People were excited and they then knew that not only was it possible, but well within reach without anything drastic happening.
You can do this with everything, home, car, vacation, etc. You just have to believe. As Tug McGraw of the NY Mets once said, “You gotta believe.” Open the channel to God’s help, and then act as though you already possess what you want.
Today’s Exercise: Go to the car dealer and get your brochure. Take a camera with you. Have someone take your picture with you sitting in the car.
Today’s Affirmation: My Subconscious Mind will make into reality whatever I ask of it.
Points to Ponder: Do you want to be successful? Well, then, act that way right now. Fake it until you make it.
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